We tend to forget that happiness does not come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. Spread love to those around you. Remember that not only today but each day you can make a difference in someone’s life. You do not need an excuse or a special day to show someone you care. 

Looking back, with each Valentine’s Day that rolled around, I would find myself hoping and wishing that I would receive a beautiful bouquet of flowers and be surprised with some fancy dinner plans or a romantic night in at home from someone I cared deeply for. 

Girl, has that narrative ever changed. 

Never again do I want to expect flowers from another person. Never again do I want to expect fancy dinner plans or home cooked meals from another person. Never again do I want to expect a romantic night planned in at home by someone I care so deeply for. 

Expectation: a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future.

In my experience, more often than not, with expectation comes disappointment. You cannot have one without the possibility of also having the other. 

Disappointment: sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one’s hopes or expectations.

This version of myself has thoroughly enjoyed finding happiness in every day life. With zero expectations. There does not need to be flowers, gifts or extravagant plans in order for me to feel happy or fulfilled. I feel that these days, we often fall into the society guidelines and comparison rabbit hole. Of course we’re all guilty at times of comparing to another ones looks, their level of career success, body shape or love life. I think the trick is to find comfort in yourself and your current relationships. Whatever they may be. And finding the strength and power to change them if it’s something you no longer feel passionately about. 

I truly recognize and acknowledge the humans within my circle. Each and every day. Not just on a day that celebrates love. I find joy in ensuring those I care about never go a moment without feeling appreciated or valued. We should never stop spreading love to those around us. We do not need an excuse or a special day to show someone how much we care. 

So today and every day ahead, let’s remember that you can make a difference in someone’s life. 

Pay for the strangers coffee in line behind you. 

Write a nice note to the server at your next restaurant. 

DoorDash your best friend’s dinner to their house when they’re having a rough day. 

Tip the human who brings out your pick-up order at the local grocery store. 

In the season of love, remind yourself that it shouldn’t just be celebrated on the 14th day of February. It should be celebrated on a random day, of a random month, at a random time. Just because. With zero expectations. Purely happiness. 

If you are feeling a little extra lonely this week in particular, your feelings are valid and I see you. Things will get better. I promise.